2022.01.27 20:03 throwaway_ands Potential Future In-Laws Not Taking Panini Seriously
Hi, this will be long but I'd love to hear your thoughts. Throwaway because.. well..
I've been with my SO for over half a decade now, we met before we began our careers and stayed together through being long distance for a while. We are mid-20s. I knew on our first date that I wanted to be with him, we talked about things that are important to us immediately and clicked. We have the same values, but we express those values in very different ways.
His family is culturally what I'd describe as Italian. Pre-pandemic, I thought they were fine people, I just didn't have much to talk with them about. I would describe my upbringing as pretty English. (English people feel free to correct me if I'm wrong but) we have very tight-knit nuclear family units, are generally quiet, read a lot of books, education was emphasized and we have dry humor. I will say horrific things with a straight face. My SO advised me pretty quickly that his family and friends don't understand when I'm joking, so I have to add a "... Just kidding, haha!" to most of my jokes when I notice his signal. After years of this conscious awareness I am reluctant to joke in their company now.
During the pandemic, I couldn't get his friends and family to not come over. I told my SO multiple times that I wasn't comfortable with it but I was outvoted-- we had a roommate who was very laid back and she also wanted company. I did not have anyone over except for once, one person, for a semi-emergency, stayed for one night, which SO liked to throw in my face anytime I tried to nix the multi-person, multi-night visits.
Now his family has radicalized. They've decided C19 isn't an issue (for them) and have not gotten the shot-- his mother goes so far as to refuse getting tested. (I think she had someone else get tested for her when she took a plane to see us with the rest of his family.) Another thing that bothers me is that it's never one or two of his family visiting, they want to come as a whole group including their SOs and it overwhelms me.
I had to miss work for a few days and wait for a C19 test result because one of his family members came for the latest trip when they felt unwell. They arrived, and left, with a dry cough. Surprise, they won't get tested either. Every time I try to draw any boundary like limiting house guests, renting a hotel room for them (at my cost,) getting a test first, or after, or just generally at some point it gets deflected into "You don't like my family" and "You can't communicate and connect with people on a non-intellectual level"
I am a nerd. A big geek. I am an introverted engineer who plays D&D, reads sci-fi, plays RPG video games and watches Star Trek. I like to talk about science, politics, and history and I get drained from small talk. His family is not at all like me. Hell, my SO isn't like me either, but we agree on the things that he can't get his family to sign on to.
This brings me to the advice part, and if you've gotten this far I applaud you: How do you know when to give up? This happens at least once a year (the family visits) and I can't handle it for the rest of my life. I resent them for visiting and I resent my SO for changing when they visit. I pressed him on communication and he told me he would tell them that I need my space, that they can't all come next time, and that I might go into my room to get away and it's not because of them-- but it is, it's exactly because of them and I think his message will drive a further wedge between me and them.
I am conflicted and I realize I am not innocent in this. I believe they consider my silence as judgement, and sometimes it is-- I either am bored to death of their conversations or I disagree with them fundamentally. Asking neutral questions eggs them on and makes them think I'm agreeing so I don't do that anymore. Joking with them is risky because they don't do dry humor. I was taught that if you didn't have anything nice to say, don't say it in that situation, and at least one of his cousins has decided I'm stuck up as a result. I don't have the energy nor will to be bubbly and I said as much after they left last time. I don't want to deprive my SO of a chance to show someone off to his family, if that's important to him, but it won't be me. Officially we've "moved past this" but I am reconsidering my entire trajectory.
TL;DR: Introverted woman seeking sanity after Italian-American tornado ravages home semi-annually.
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2022.01.27 20:03 dolphins3 Photographing a Catastrophic Explosion at Mt. St. Helens
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2022.01.27 20:03 Bookishworm111 Season 13 finale
It was good I enjoyed it.
The fighting in the air between dean(Micheal) and lucifer was bad but didn't last long.
Also as that micheal is from aw where Dean was never born.
How is Dean his perfect vessel as the show flashbacks implying our Dean is aw Micheal perfect vessel.
I did like the actor who play aw Micheal plus Dean looked cool in the ending shot.
I know they do with mo heal what they did with demon Dean it lasts like 2 episode then done with lol.
I notice sams neater plots last longer than Dean.
We get souless Sam for 11 episodes We get gadreel possessing Sam for a good chunk of season 9.
We get demon Dean for 3 eps and Micheal possessing Dean for 2 episodes. . Granted we got mark of cain for 1.5 seasons
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2022.01.27 20:03 globophobic_ Why do items get many likes, are in so many people’s bags but no one is actually buying even when the price is low af *a vent*
I need some extra money so I put my whole shop on 25% off and people are still asking for swaps on a 10€ branded item.
I want to cry. Especially when I see other shops from my area listing similar stuff for triple the price and their stuff FLIES.
Depop and reselling in general is just giving me depression at this point. I live in a european country that struggles financialy and i get it but on the other hand i constantly see other people’s clothing getting sold out in hours. And the only platforms available here for reselling are Depop and Instagram. I’ve tried Ebay but they banned me for literally no reason, i had listed only a couple NWT items.
Not trying to shade other shops, i’m so happy people are making sales. But i try hard to take good professional looking photos for my shop and i try to keep it affordable. I write detailed descriptions, bumping listings etc, but it just doesn’t work anymore and i’m wondering what am i doing wrong.
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2022.01.27 20:03 kingzues504 Imo quando the only nigga that could fw yb 🤷🏾♂️ he just need the support that yb get
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2022.01.27 20:03 benny-mo [For Sale] Brent Faiyaz, Kaytranada, Kendrick Lamar, BROCKHAMPTON, + more!!
Paypal G&S only. Shipping is included in the cost. Will ship all records with care via media mail. Shipping to CONUS only. All vinyl grades are record/cover.
Brent Faiyaz - Fuck the World (NM / NM): $150
Kaytranada - 99.9% (NM / VG): $100
This is the yellow and purple rough trade exclusive, limited to 800 copies. Not sure if there's a high demand for this specific version, but couldn't find anything on Discogs under $150.
Kendrick Lamar - DAMN (Collector's Edition) (NM / VG): $90
BROCKHAMPTON - Saturation III (Bootleg) (NM / NM): $60
Drake - If You're Reading This It's Too Late (NM / NM): $60
Official pressing, only spun this once or twice.
Billie Eilish - Live at Third Man Records (NM / NM): $50
RSD 2020 exclusive, pressed on opaque blue vinyl. 12" x 24" foldout poster included.
Kanye West - Yeezus (Bootleg) (NM / NM): $40
Chance the Rapper - 10 Day (Official Pressing) (NM / VG+): $40
Came with a seam split along the top, some wear and tear on the corners.
Denzel Curry - Unlocked (NM / NM): $20
Standard black pressing.
Kanye West - Ye (NM / NM): $25
XXXTentacion - ? (NM / NM): $20
Childish Gambino - Camp (NM / VG+): $20
The White Stripes - White Blood Cells (NM / NM): $20
Phoebe Bridgers - Copycat Killer (Mountain Blast) (M / M): $15
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2022.01.27 20:03 DashingAviation Daisy Keech
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2022.01.27 20:03 Yungstunna1k Is it me or I feel Outside today deserve to be more than 3x Platinum, I feel it should be at least 5x platinum rn
2022.01.27 20:03 OneColdRuben Dnd 5e homebrew: question about magic items and what to do with my new found strength.
I have been in a super awesome campaign for about 1 year now. I have a human variant Totem of the Eagle Barbarian, lvl 12 with moble, athlete, and fighter initiate Greatweapon Fighting. Recently I got a wish that gave me +11 to strength, but I had to take it from other stats.
Currently stats are 29,18,16,6,8,8. I use a Flametounge Greatsword, belt of Dwarvenkind, and Bracers of Haste. As backup I have a SunSword, Boots of the Winterland, and I just recently picked up a Cloak of monterbeck(?).
I was reading about strength, and see I can now carry 1500lbs, can jump ~30ft and should be good at grappling.
I have always carried a 2hander, but am wondering if I should switch play styles and go grappling with a 1hander. I also am wondering if I should be looking for other magic items.
My group is strict about the 3 attune rule, but loose on some things because it is homebrew. At one point we talked about taking a giants sword (15ft long) and I would have the strength to carry it but I would look like a anime character. I don't know what would be appropriate damage roll with it though.
Anyway, I thought I would ask the internets of people what would you do or go for.
Thank you ahead of time, and sorry if I misspelled stuff. -onecoldruben
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2022.01.27 20:03 Sugardog1967 Reposting my friends link
I play every day and always give lives when requested!!
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2022.01.27 20:03 spudral 3 years ago I stated on here I wanted a card game. So at least one person has been asking for "years".
2022.01.27 20:03 randyoo Intentionally degraded mirror: change my mind
I've got a fair amount of experience under my belt, having run ZFS for about a decade now (albeit never in an enterprise/production setting).
What I want is a simple offline backup for my personal data. I know there's a consensus against implementing offline backup via ZFS mirroring, but I'm looking for a compelling argument against it. I once encountered a post in this sub discussing it (and why it's a bad idea), but I'm unable to find that post, and don't recollect being convinced. The way I see it, the pros easily outweigh the cons.
2022.01.27 20:03 GiantAntCowboy Building Drones and flying awesome places!
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2022.01.27 20:03 happsy1818 Need help with interpreting ovulation test (Unknown category)
Hi everyone! I lost my first baby on January 7th at 18 weeks due to fetal abnormalities. I had a D&E and stopped bleeding a few days ago. I decided to take a pregnancy and ovulation test today to see where my hormones are standing. You can see the pictures here: https://imgur.com/a/mu3G5Dw
So, up top is the ovulation test and on the bottom is the pregnancy test. The pregnancy test is clearly negative (yay! HCG is probably out of my body?). The ovulation test seems positive to me. But I’ve read that they can be positive when you have HCG in your body. Since I don’t seem to have HCG in my body, is it safe to assume that this is a true positive ovulation result? Also, if it is, is it a strong positive or should I keep testing to see if it gets darker or lighter?
I’m not trying to conceive immediately (my husband and I want to wait a little bit due to the trauma of the first pregnancy), but I’m trying to get clarification so I can better navigate this pregnancy journey.
Thanks a lot!
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2022.01.27 20:03 nuttty_fish What was your favorite song now vs 2 years ago?
2022.01.27 20:03 atIveRiaDMOS I ❤️ everything about this cup
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2022.01.27 20:03 JRVS138 Dallas 2-18-22
Looking for meet and greets. If you have any you want to part with or can point me in the right direction to get some I would be eternally grateful
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2022.01.27 20:03 BrittanyDahlArt Mirror selfieeee (F, over 18)
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2022.01.27 20:03 ijjouafadad Swimming Benefits For Good Health
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2022.01.27 20:03 kershi123 Another request to critique our sleep/wake/feed routine.
I need help. My twins are always stirring or waking up between 3am and 6am. Twins are B/G fraternal 5 weeks, we know not to try sleep training yet but I am kinda stumped as to what I am doing wrong here. Our goal is probably everyones goal - maximize # of hours they sleep from 2am until 6am. In fact, it would be heaven on earth if we could put them down by 2am, crawl into bed and Mom didn't have to wake up for one of them until 7am...
I have day shift (super early morning until noon the next day) but I keep getting woken up by either my husband during his shift bc he needs help or the twins bc they seem to wake up no matter what between 4am and 6am. I would love advice on how I can increase our odds they will sleep from 4am-6am instead. Because I get woken up so incrementally, my final sleep disturbance being so early is getting really hard on me.
My husband has night shift, 10pm - 3am. Sometimes he is stuck awake with them from 3am until 5am trying to soothe one or the other. Like stated above, I sometimes get woke up to help two times during his shift (which is ok with me, I do it to him at times too).
I feel like he could be doing something wrong? I am not sure. He waits till they stir in a way he knows they will wake up soon then he wakes one.
A few things - both twins take forever to finish a bottle and seem to need to be held upright for a long time (20 minutes) and they started drinking up to 6-8oz of forumula recently 😳 I also noticed my husband isn't very proactive with napping them in nap spaces instead he lets them nap in the Twin Z and he made a comment recently that "As soon as I lay them flat, they wake". During my shift in the day, I nap them a couple places (the doc a tot, the crib, the twin z, etc).
So this is what I think he does:
9-10pm my husband feeds both what they want (4-8oz depending on how hungry they are, holds upright or props in Twin Z for 20 minutes minimum then soothes and naps them.
12-1am same as the above
2-3am same as the above
4-5/6am one of them wakes up or worse, one of them wakes the other up.
So basically, my husband puts them down at 3am and they wake up an hour or two hours later. A couple of nights, my husband is passed out at 3am and I get woken up at 3:30am bc the twins sound all gurgly and raspy but he swears he held them upright for 20 minutes (ai believe him).
During the day I can get them to nap for three or four hours. They dont have day/night confusion. During the day track the time as its passes in relation to their sleep and wake windows and I also track when and how much formula they each have and I track their poop.
Today I was woken up at 4:45 am by the twin who he claimed to put down at 2:30 am.
What advice do you all have for us so we can switch the daytime nap times for night? I feel like...if they nap so well during the day (its never excessive either always 3 - 3.5 hours) then why the heck can't they be put to bed at 2am or 3am full, happy and sleep until 6am?
I have tried "dream feeds" during this time and they dont work bc the twins will shit/piss themselves if we don't change diapers.
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2022.01.27 20:03 PastellyKelly I just hope our last words were different
You don't care about me, you just wanted a hole to put it in when you were horny. I get that, it's fine that that's what you want in your life now. I just wish we had a conversation like adults and ended things amicably. The thing that bothers me is that, even though all your actions showed indifference, I still believe you were just scared and actually wanted to be with me, not just for the sex.
If I didn't care, I wouldn't have spoken like an asshole. And I believe that if you didn't care, you would have said no to meeting up and talking. Maybe you are that big of a manipulator and I misinterpreted the sadness in your voice when you said I didn't text you back either.
I hate that I still think about you and you probably found some other girl to spend the nights with. I want to wish you happy birthday on Monday but I also don't want to talk to you at all. I want to see you and say I'm sorry but I know you probably dont care and don't want to talk to me.
I just want to tell you all these things, I don't even care if you respond or not. But it's very tiring, feeling sad about the way I spoke, because I don't do that, I don't believe I am that type of person, but I behaved like that with you.
I don't know what I'm even saying.
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2022.01.27 20:03 OnlyHyperion Amegilla cingulata, native to Australia, is a species of blue-banded bee which uses "buzz pollination" to cause the tubular anthers of certain kinds of flowers to release pollen for collection. Here we see bees grabbing onto to eggplant flowers to sonically vibrate loose pollen which they gather.
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2022.01.27 20:03 EthTraderCommunity Avalanche and two other altcoins better than BTC and ETH, according to crypto skeptic
2022.01.27 20:03 EthTraderCommunity How To Survive A Crypto Bear Market While Hodling
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